Im confused

by Jess
(New York)

I,M 15.. a freshman in high school. I'm so confused, I don't know who I am. I don't know what I wanna be when I'm older. I know I have a lot of potential and talents.. but its just clouded.

I jump from one thought to another, then I think about how I can figure myself out. Its the same cycle every day and I'm so tired of it. It's getting worse and worse it's to the point where I cant make friends as easily as I used to because I'm always questioning if this is who I really am. I always feel like I'm never good enough. How do I get out of this? please don't say "be yourself" because I don't know who that is anymore.

I have friends, and a best friend, and family who cares about me, but I'm always so doubtful and I constantly compare myself to my sister who is 18, found her future husband (not sarcasm).. and she has strong views on everything. shes very noticeable. I wanna be that way. I wanna be sure of myself like she is, but I'm not... my friends so funny, she makes everyone laugh so much.

I get jealous, cause people describe me as really nice and whatever. I feel like I used to be really funny and now I,m not. what do I do? please help me... I need it.

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Feb 18, 2009
thank you
by: Jess

thanks Cody that made me feel alot better =]

Feb 18, 2009
When The Time Is Right
by: Cody

Hi Jess, thanks for your question. What I would say to you is maybe just don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Enjoy the privilege of being young for a little bit longer. If it is any consolation I was in my late 20's before I really knew what I wanted, it's OK. Your not supposed to know what you want at 15, being confused is very normal!

By comparing yourself to your sister your being very hard on yourself, if you must compare, compare yourself to her when she was 15, not 18, you may far outshine her by the time your 18. You have the whole of high school to catch up. You don't know what will happen in those years.

Another thing to remember is that you don't have to be great on paper to be a great person and a great friend. Does a straight "A" student make a better friend than a "C" student? Is somebody who knows what they want to do in life more fun than somebody who doesn't? Of course not!! You can be fun, outgoing and popular without having a clue about what you want.

You will figure out what you want when the time is right, just like you will meet that special person when the time is right. until then, maybe just do what makes you smile for now.

Good Luck

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