Should I try to save my marriage or let him go?

by Tina
( OR, usa)

We have 3 kids. My husband abandoned his job in early January and finally started working again in early March. He did NOTHING around the house for those 2 months except look on the computer for a job and play his new playstation 3. When I ask him why he doesn't help around the house he says has "given up" on me, the kids, the home, everything for 5 yrs now.

He repairs nothing, cleans nothing, wont do a single chore around the house AT ALL! He hardly interacts with the kids unless it's to scold, criticize or punish them for a wrong they did, wont eat at the dinner table with us, is always grumpy, and enjoys spending time and money on doing things for himself like playing video poker online, video games, basketball or baseball, watching football and playing in fantasy football with friends, or watching tv programs.

We both work, I am a nurse who has developed a problem with gambling (video poker), something I enjoyed doing that got too excessive-partly to escape and partly to have a chance to enjoy something for me that is equivalent to what my husband does. We just declared bankruptcy chapter 13 and my husband is ready to leave me. Should I try to make it work and go through gambling counseling or is it futile because he isn't accepting any blame for our bad marriage-only my gambling and irresponsibility, and the marriage will ultimately end anyway.