Thanks! Yeah, she knows something is wrong with me and I am holding back. I am trying to wait to say anything because I don't want it to be me attacking her. And it's not just about finances. It's about anything and every thing to do with trying to plan for our future... she just shuts the door in my face once I think we are going in the same direction. It's very confusing and then all of the sudden she doesn't want to return any of our friends phone calls or go shopping or anything .. it's just strange behavior.
Dec 01, 2008 Rating
Marriage advice by: Cody
OK, obviously I don't know you or your situation so I may be completely wrong, but it sounds as though your wife is trying to communicate a need to you that you are not quite understanding. I'm guessing that the expenses for her are not an issue at all, she wants you to understand her situation not solve it.
Every time she backs out of a plan maybe she is just trying to subtly let you know that it is not your help she wants, it's you.
If somethings not working don't keep doing the same thing, try something a little different. Different behavior will bring about a different response. Keep in mind she's probably talking to her friends too, saying I don't know him anymore either. Rarely is a problem one sided. She's probably as frustrated as you!
I would talk to her, but don't make the conversation about expenses make it about you and how you can be a better husband. I guarantee if you ask her "how can I be a better husband?" she will tell you and then ask you how she can be a better wife? As long as you can keep it reasonable and constructive you will be on the right track.
