I broke someones heart and I'm the one whos more hurt?

I had my first serious relationship in my freshman year of high school. I knew it wasn't love, but I truly cared about him. We got along great, but he began to lose respect for me after a couple months. We took a break for one day, but we both realized we couldn't go our separate ways. Things were good, but I felt like I deserved better, so I ended the relationship at the start of summer.


I was doing fine for 2 weeks, then it hit me. I cried and wondered if what I did was for the best. I saw him once a month later at a carnival and my heart just broke at the sight of him. Now, its been 6 months since the break up and I'm pretty sure he's over me for good but I can't seem to let go. I continue to try and get myself out there to find someone new, but nothing works.

Someone else who's always loved me has come along and he treats me great, but I can't seem to fall for him. Hes never even kissed before and it feels like I'm in 3rd grade when I'm with him. No one compares to my ex though and the way the new guy acts is too immature for me, but he loves me and waited for me.

My mom keeps yelling at me to date him, but I just don't feel it. Everything's just a mess for me. I'm broken. Advice?

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Jan 19, 2009
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broken heart
by: Jenny

This is my advice to you: You obviously had good reasons for breaking up with your boyfriend. It is easy to look back and remember only good times. It sounds like you are still fairly young, and I would not waste much more time brooding over someone who did not respect you.

As for your current situation, you should either let the boy know that you are not interested, or you should give him a chance. Sometimes relationships that have no pressure are the best situations, especially if he treats you well and does not want a physical relationship.

Good luck to you.

Jan 19, 2009
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Talk To The Guy
by: Cody

Hi there, thanks for you question. I have to say that's a difficult one really. What to do? I think firstly with regards to your current situation you really need to think about the guys feelings. If you are not feeling much or anything for him, and you are not going to be with him, I think it's better to end it sooner rather than later. It's the kind thing to do. The longer you leave it the harder it will be on him.

With regards to your ex, that's a bit harder. It's very difficult to appreciate and love what we take for granted, it's like the old saying, you don't know what you've got till it's gone! Pretty true here it seems like. You didn't find your true feelings until you lost him.

Advice, well, you seem to have two options, talk to him and tell him how you feel. You really have nothing to lose at this point, you don't have him right now, and if he really has moved on you won't have him any less by telling him how you feel. Who knows, he might not have moved on at all, he might just be acting strong for pride reasons.

Second choice is for you to just leave it, learn a lesson and move on yourself. Personally if I were you I would talk to the guy, you just never know! That's all I can say really, I hope it turns out well for you.

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